“The Perfect Way to Conquer Worry is to Pray.” – Dale Carnegie
Happiness and Sorrow are part of our life. But when there is too much of sorrow, there is a chance of us getting pushed into depression and sometimes leading to a life that makes us feeling like we aren‘t worthy of living.
Here‘s how to overcome worry and move on towards being productive and happy as per the SECRETS OF SUCCESS – a list of Principles from How to Win Friends and Influence People book by Dale Carnegie.
- Live in “day-tight compartments.”
- How to face trouble:
- Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen?”
- Prepare to accept the worst.
- Try to improve on the worst.
- Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health.
Here‘s how to become a more influential and caring leader as per the SECRETS OF SUCCESS – a list of Principles from How to Win Friends and Influence People book by Dale Carnegie.
- Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
- Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
- Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
- Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
- Let the other person save face.
- Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
- Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
- Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
- Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Here‘s how to become a more influential person by winning people into your thinking as per the SECRETS OF SUCCESS – a list of Principles from How to Win Friends and Influence People book by Dale Carnegie.
- The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
- Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
- If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
- Begin in a friendly way.
- Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
- Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
- Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
- Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
- Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
- Appeal to the nobler motives.
- Dramatize your ideas.
- Throw down a challenge.
Here‘s how to become a Friendlier Person as per the SECRETS OF SUCCESS – a list of Principles from How to Win Friends and Influence People book by Dale Carnegie.
- Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
- Give honest, sincere appreciation.
- Arouse in the other person an eager want.
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
- Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
- Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
Most so-called gooroos out there will tell you that success is quick, and you can achieve success easily. I‘m not here to tell you what you would love to hear.
I‘m here to tell you what it actually takes to reach success in whatever aspect you think that you should reach success in. And I have to tell you that it‘s not going to be easy.
Success is a product of having GRIT, Obsessiveness, and a High Desire towards your goals…
You need to be Resilient, Persuasive, Iterative, and able to course correct your way towards success.
It‘s never a straight road to success. In fact, there is no road. It‘s like a journey to the other side through a desert land… You need to figure out your way through.
Your Mentors are your GPS who would guide you through the desert. They make your life easier, but you have to take that path.
It‘s like the relationship between Neo and Morpheus in the movie Matrix. Morpheus being the mentor, guides, and coaches Neo to reach the goal.
Of course, Neo had to face the rough path, fight the agents, dodge bullets etc. But he finally reaches success. And it was through constant course correction.
Mentors can show you the door, but you have to walk through.
When I say mentors, it might not be a person. It could be FREE blogs, public domain books, email newsletters etc. that someone puts out.
My successes so far were a result of having great mentors. And me taking action. I walked the rough path. There were a lot of ups and downs. There are ups and downs even now. But it‘s a journey I chose to take.
In the end, everything will be worth it. Like Steve Jobs said,
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking, backward.
So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.
Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart even when it leads you off the well-worn path, and that will make all the difference.”
– Steve Jobs [Stanford commencement speech, June 2005]
In this video, you can see what it took a famed celebrity and Silicon Valley investor Gary Vaynerchuck reach success. It‘s worth your time to watch this. Thank me later…
Usually, we would like to do everything ourselves, because we are so protective of our tasks, we don’t trust anyone with what we need to do. This can actually push us into feeling overwhelmed.
Being overwhelmed will lead you to be unproductive and ineffective. Many of us know the power of delegation but we procrastinate because we have trust issues when it comes to delegation. This is another form of perfectionism.
When I was at Tony Robbins Seminar, I was asked to make one decision that was pending for a long time, a decision which was out of my comfort zone.
I was thinking of hiring someone to help me as an assistant. I had a day job, and I had a lot to do to start my business. A lot of research, setting up websites, content etc. But I was procrastinating.
I’m a person, who hates to do repetitive work. I love to work creatively and think strategically. That’s what my strengths are as well as per the Gallup Strengths Test at gallupstrengthscenter.com.
So the decision I made was to hire an employee. Until today after I’ve made over $100,000 in sales while still at my day job. The one thing that was key for me to move forward was the decision to hire an assistant.
This decision helped me offload a lot of work that I don’t like doing – repetitive stuff, things that I hate to do, things that take more time to do, everything can now be done by my assistant.
I was able to work at my day job, while my business was also running. That was the best decision I ever made.
So, here’s an exercise for you today. What is one decision that is out of your comfort zone? A decision that you were thinking about for a long time and haven‘t decided yet?
Make the decision YES or NO today. Hit “comment” and let me know what you decided.